Interview with my Brazilian friend, Simone! #3 [No Pressure on Your Choice]

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This is the 3rd episode of my interview series “Interview with my Brazilian friend, Simone!”

Interview with my Brazilian friend, Simone!

[Index]

#1 Mother Studies Abroad
#2 Making Things Easier
#3 No Pressure on Your Choice
#4 I’m With the Society

Our talk about the topics like marriage or career become deeper and deeper! In this episode, we compare Brazilian culture with Asian’s. I’m not sure if our opinions are technically correct, but I hope you enjoy our conversation checking your own opinion!

友人のSimone(シモニ)

Simone

 

No Pressure on Your Choice

Simone:If you are there and have kids in Japan, do you think what can makes your life easier?

-It might be being myself. Looking at the people in Brazil they’re showing their emotion and that makes me feel easier to be myself. But if I’m in Japan I don’t feel comfortable to be myself. I think I should react the way to be supposed to than the way you want to.

Simone:So there is a pattern. I can’t imagine how hard it is. Because here in Brazil,you have no pressure to do something. If you don’t feel comfortable having kids, because you want to travel more, that’s fine! if you don’t want to have kids, there’s no reason to do that. If you don’t want to get married, then ok!

Last year, I met a 25-year-old Chinese lady. She said that she is old so she needs to find a guy to get married.

“Even I’m living in Australia, my family lives in China keep asking me like if I’m going to get married or not. I am going to go study or I don’t want to get married yet. But at the same time I’m ashamed for my family. “

– I had the same feeling as hers!!!

Simone:Here in Brazil, you can find the the girls in my age who even doesn’t have a boyfriend and they’re really happy with no pressure. They’re enjoying their life.

– I guess we focus on the different things.

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Enjoy All the Moment

Simone:So what is the most scary for you to love it in Brazil?

– Dinner time is too late for me. It can start around 10 p.m. And this is so late for me.

Simone: Because it is a tradition for Asian people to have a dinner before 9 p.m. In Brazil there is no rule for the time. For example we’re here talking and asking what’s your plan after this. And then I would say like “oh then let’s go out and then get the barbecue!” And then we do barbecue. It can be at 11 p.m. if it’s Friday or so.This is so normal.

My Chinese teacher wanted to have dinner early then I picked up food for her early. I understand her and respect her. But not every people understand that here in Brazil. All the time is for having a party and 9 p.m. is still early.

-People here look having a nice balance of life and work. For example, my husband works so hard and efficiently, and doesn’t do over work. And once he finished his job he does enjoy his life a rest of his time.

Simone: I saw a Japanese documentary about the guy who passed away because of work so long time. There is a name for the situation. His wife said “It’s so sad. The last time my little daughter saw him she couldn’t recognize him. When she is going to the job, she was sleeping. And when he comes back, she also sleeping. So when my daughter saw a video of my husband, she couldn’t recognize who he is.”

I don’t know exactly but I guess this might be the Asian culture to work so long. You do everything by you and work more than you can.

But here in Brazil, You need to spend time to help friends, to have fun to the shopping having coffee. Everything.

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– I guess that we Japanese might have hesitation to have a housekeeping service. I feel like you are lazy enough to ask somebody help. So many ladies work as an employee and as a wife, I think it is too harsh.

Simone: You mean there’s a pressure in the Japanese society saying that you needed to do everything? You could decide to have a family but you have to do everything for your family. And in addition to this, you have a job and earn some money. It’s not a human!

It’s not a normal. Can you imagine if you ask you want to meet me in 1 hour, and then I would say “I’m sorry but I have to do laundry.” You know that it’s crazy! I can’t agree with this!

To be continued…

NEXT>>>I’m With the Society

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